December 18, 2013

母親、妻子、情人、知已、女兒

男人的一生會遇到無數個女人,但對男人影響頗深的女人只有五個----母親、妻子、情人、知已、女兒。都說男人是博愛的,可愛是自私的,那麼男人最愛的女人是誰呢?

母親給了男人生命,男人沒由理由的深愛自己的母親。男人曾經那麼依賴于母親溫暖的懷抱,垂涎母親做的美食,感恩于母親對自己的精心哺育……但隨著年齡的增長,男人只是一如既往的感受著母親的愛,自己卻把對母親的愛以沉默的方式存放在心底深處,男人越來越不會表達自己對母親的愛,也吝嗇于回報母親的愛,和母親對自己濃濃的愛相比,男人對母親的愛顯得蒼白而微薄,男人總是藉口沒有時間陪母親說話,陪母親吃飯,把母親一個人孤零零的留在家裡,而是把更多的時間和精力糾纏在了別的女人身上。

妻子,和男人步入婚姻的女人,當初好像也是郎有情妹有意的,共同撐起了一個家,讓彼此都有了歸屬感。可是時間久了,才發現女孩一旦變為女人,對男人的要求會越來越多,要錢要愛要浪漫。她會喋喋不休的將她眼裡功成名就的典範設置成男人的參照物,無論男人怎麼奮鬥都難以達到她理想的指標。聽著妻子痛哭流涕的訴說,為了男人犧牲了她的青春年華,為了家耗盡了她的滿腹才情,妻子為什麼就不想想是時光催人老,不是男人把她變成黃臉婆的,是她安於平庸,不是家讓她才情殆盡的,真搞不明白是妻子真的在乎男人還是女人天性疑神疑鬼,妻子會翻男人的衣服口袋找夜不歸宿的線索,會偷看男人的手機資訊看是否有越軌現象,其實男人活得很累,男人即使有委屈也不能對著妻子流淚,所以只能在家之外找一方釋放的空間,最終還是要和妻子共枕,一起過日子。

情人,錯的時間以不道德的形象出現在婚姻外的女人。情人是男人脫口而出的時尚稱謂,情人帶著火一樣炙熱的激情征服了男人,讓男人迷失甚至墮落,但男人在清醒頓悟的時候都會後悔莫及的長歎,是情人害的自己妻離子散,人財兩空。由此可以知道情人只是有目的性的美色和金錢交易,偶爾的情感撞擊也只是滿足了男人一時的歡愉,男人對情人的愛如水中的浮萍,沒有愛的根基,激情過後還剩什麼?情人呀,不要用你美豔的姿色誘惑男人,不要用你多情的眼淚征服男人,男人面對女人意志力是很薄弱的,但男人最終想從情人那裡得到的只是一具肉體,所以說情人只能滿足男人空虛的靈魂,間或充徹男人日益貧乏的激情,卻不會佔據男人的心。所以情人往往是悲劇下場。

紅顏知已,任何時間以朋友的身份曖昧的游離于男人身邊的女人。她沒有妻子的嘮叨,沒有情人的世俗,她象清風撲面而來,給男人安慰激勵男人上進,男人可以把游走在妻子和情人之間的乏累和疲倦告訴她,可以把工作上的煩惱向她傾訴,可以和她開半葷半素的玩笑緩解壓力,男人喜歡和知已聊聊天,好讓心靈找到停歇的港灣,讓精神得到釋放的棲息地,知已在男人的心目中其實是中性的,當男人脆弱的時候,知已應該多表露出女人柔情的一面,像母親一樣安撫男人,當男人激憤的時候,知已應該多表露出男人豪情的一面,像哥們一樣勸解男人。男人以他們的意願要求著知已,知已以她們的善解人意順從著男人,給男人呵護和關愛,男人只是依賴于這種心靈的安慰,並不會給知已愛的承諾。

女兒,流淌著男人一半血液的女人。自古就流傳著這樣的說法,女兒是男人前世的情人。經歷了輪回轉世身份的演變,又是愛情的結晶,再加上血脈相連,男人和女兒緊緊的牽繫在一起,他們之間,沒有任何世俗和功利,只有簡簡單單的父女情意,在女兒年幼時,男人溫柔的把她抱在懷裡,女兒用透明的心感知父親的情,用清澈的眼睛解讀父親的愛,女兒讓男人感受到初為人父的快樂。長大後,女兒不會以家產的貧富來評判父親的價值,而是以崇拜的眼神欣賞父親的偉岸,以羡慕的口吻承認父親的魄力,讓她們的父親真正感受到一個男人的尊嚴和自豪,做了父親的男人才能知道肩負起沉甸甸的責任和承擔起培養女兒的義務,為了自己的女兒,男人會付出所有的心血和厚愛。

女人們,如果想讓男人愛你一生一世,那麼來世做他們的女兒吧

December 4, 2013

If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.

Was is the right decision to buy an expensive plane ticket again?
am I going to be safe?
is this guy really worth it?

Jump into the unknown, conquer your fears and do whatever makes you smile.
The savage rush of energy that floods into your veins when you sit on a plane to an unknown destination is unbeatable.

Have you ever got a chance so big that it gave you goosebumps and made you scream from the top of your lungs? When a great opportunity comes along, it does it with a great amount of energy and before you know it there ain’t no mountain high enough.

Let's take the questions
1. If not now, then when?
2. What would you do if nobody would judge you?
3. Have you done something worth remembering lately?
4. Time or money?
5. What is the one thing you are proud of  but would never put on your resume?
6. In twenty years from now, what do you want to remember?
7. If you had to move to a country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
8. What is something that you have always wanted to do since you were a kid?
9. When did you first realize life is short?
10. What memory from the past makes you smile the most?
11. Are you proud of what you are doing or what have you done?
12. In one year from today, how do you want to be different?
13. Are you doing what you believe in or settling for what you are doing?
14. What do you need to do to make it happen?
15. What do you absolutely love in life?
16. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breath?
17. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
18. What is success for you?
19. What makes you feel great about yourself?
20. What do you admire most in the world?
21. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like doing?
22. When was the last time you started something new?
23. In order of importance, how would you rank happiness, money, love, health, fame?
24. What was the thing that didn’t last forever, but was still worth a while?
25. What has fear or failure stopped you from doing?
26. In one word, how would you spend the last month of your life?
27. What do you want to be known for?
28. What are you thankful for?
29. What do you need to let go of?
30. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?